Communication & ghosting

Silence has no single explanation

Ghosting describes ending contact without an explanation. People can experience a delayed reply, a completed conversation and an abrupt cutoff differently. Message logs rarely reveal motives.

Timmermans, Hermans and Opree surveyed 328 Dutch-speaking dating-app users using open and closed questions. The study describes varied motives and distressing experiences; its self-selected sample does not establish population prevalence. 7

The analyzer’s 14-day rule

CupidLeaks flags threads where you wrote last and the last message is around two weeks old at the export reference date. The implemented comparison is strictly older than 14 days. The denominator includes threads with at least one message. Missing timestamps or uncertain authorship reduce reliability.

This heuristic detects inactivity visible in the export. It cannot prove intentional rejection or reveal a conversation continued through calls, meetings or another messenger.

Reading replies and conversation length

Response rates require identifiable authors and a clear opening message. Metrics are suppressed or marked estimated when attribution is uncertain. Long conversations do not prove a good connection; short ones do not prove disinterest.

Universal rules about the ideal opener length have been removed. An observed association is no guarantee for the next conversation. Content, mutual interest and respected boundaries remain relevant.